Zoë is a therapist and mental health consultant in London. She has almost ten years of therapeutic experience.
Her consulting work focuses on making therapy accessible to all through taking therapeutic experiences into mainstream situations. She works with brands, teams, businesses and gyms to help make looking after your mental health accessible and acceptable to all. She is the creator, developer and author of Your Mental Health Workout.
Her private practice offers support on a range of emotional and psychological topics including, addiction, eating disorders, codependence, trauma, anxiety, depression and relationship issues.
Zoë’s personal experience of transformation, alongside her professional endeavours, enables a warm and compassionate approach to helping you live a happier, healthier life. She has a particular interest in overcoming self-defeating thoughts and shame-based belief systems which may get in the way of you fulfilling your potential.
Zoë is accredited with NCAC (National Counsellor Accreditation Certificate), from SMMGP (Substance Misuse Management Good Practice) and BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy).
Addiction, left untreated, is a life threatening issue that can take its form in drugs, alcohol, work, gambling, screens, self-harm, food and exercise to name a few. You may find that you are repeatedly prioritising your drug of choice over previously important aspects of your life. You may be repeatedly attempting to change how you may feel and suffer emotional or physical withdrawal. When you stop, you might struggle to stay stopped or in control for any extended length of time. Fear and shame, cloaked in denial, often accompanies an addiction so if you suspect you might need help...find it now.
Eating Disorders come in the form of Anorexia, Bulimia, Overeating/Binge Eating disorder and Orthorexia.
Anorexia - is the refusal to maintain a normal body weight. Anorexics might appear underweight and struggle with eating and drinking.
Bulimia - is a binge and purge cycle, how this manifests varies form person to person. Bulimics can purge through vomiting, laxatives, exercising, starving, restricting and self harming. Bulimics can be any weight depending on their compulsive behaviours.
Overeating/Binge Eating Disorder - is the compulsive need to overeat. Be this through actively bingeing, feeling the need to snack throughout the day or night or overeating at or after meal times. Overeaters might present as overweight.
Orthorexia - is an obsession with healthy eating. As an Orthorexic you can present as someone who is looking after their diet really well, however your need to control what you eat is causing you distinct pain and distress.
You may experience one, two, three or all of these manifestations of an eating disorder. Whatever your experience you may find yourself lying about what you've eaten, when and where. You may feel like you are living in 'borrowed body' and have a highly distorted sense of self and body image.
Codependence is usually the result of developmental trauma or a family of origin experience that was unhelpful in some way. In order to protect our selves from being hurt again we create adapted parts of ourselves which allow us to look 'sorted' and feel 'in control' but actually move us further away from our authentic self - resulting in internal conflict and emotional pain. Codependents frequently present as either too dependent or anti-dependent. They experience a desperate need to be liked, loved and accepted demonstrated through people pleasing and dominant or submissive compulsive helping. Their self esteem depends on it. Codependents might have a sense of deep rooted resentment but have trouble expressing themselves honestly. Recovery from codependence involves self esteem work and boundary setting in order to develop a sense of self without the need to control others.
Many issues around mental health develop as a way to cope with trauma, or something that you found overwhelming and did not have the resources to deal with at the time. This includes but is not limited to, emotional neglect and abuse, living with a mentally unwell or addicted family member, bullying, sexual abuse, bereavement, abandonment, rejection, enmeshment (when someone uses another to help themselves feel better), physical abuse, witnessing abuse of another. The list goes on. Developmental trauma might also present as PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), difficulty getting into or out of relationships, over or under reactions as well as anxiety, depression. Recovery from trauma is challenging but, with support very possible.
Self-Harm can manifest as cutting, bruising, burning, banging, picking, bone breaking and ingesting dangerous substances. Research shows that self-harmers are highly likely to have a history of trauma and the behaviour acts as a way to regulate long standing internal pain. Often associated with attachment disorders, self harm can be an attempt to cope with difficult feelings of abandonment and enmeshment. If you find yourself hurting yourself or wanting to hurt yourself it is important you seek help as soon as possible.
Depression is a mental health problem that causes a low mood, loss of interest or pleasure, feelings of guilt or low self-worth; disturbed sleep or appetite; low energy, and poor concentration. It looks different on everyone. Some people are very functional in their depression. Others are confined to their bed for weeks on end. Depression sometimes needs medical intervention but it is really worth trying a holistic approach before you go down that route. Often a reactive depression is an accumulation of difficult feelings that can be worked thorough in therapy.
Love addiction can manifest in obsession around another person, place or thing. You will seek out intensity in an attempt to create intimacy and connection. Love Avoidance shows up as a difficulty getting into relationships. Fearing intimacy you may create intensity elsewhere to protect yourself from getting hurt. You fear vulnerability. Neither needs to have a sexual element although this is often a product of becoming love addicted/avoidant. It can occur in romantic relationships, friendships, teaching situations and colleagues. A pre-occupation or a compulsive need to avoid a person, place or thing is usually the main symptom. You may also feel constantly worried that you will be rejected, abandoned or depended on. You may also feel a desperate need to find out information and display stalking like behaviours. The pain and shame that comes with Love Addiction and avoidance often results in feelings of anxiety, depression and use of external substance to avoid difficult feelings.
Anxiety is made up of a number of different factors and often people need help and support to work through anxiety. The word anxiety means something specific to you. No-one's anxious response is the same as the next. It is a word that tells us you are not OK. You might need to 'unpack' your anxiety and start to understand your triggers. How to cope more effectively. Or you might need support while you go through a particularly stressful life event. Anxiety comes in all shapes and sizes so therapy around anxiety needs to be bespoke to you are your personal experience.
Grief doesn't just happen when you lose a loved one or there's a death in the family or there's a breakup of a relationship. It happens every time you get disappointed. It happens every time you lose something. It happens every time an expectation isn't met. It happens every time someone says no. So quite often in life we are moved into a process of grief without realising. Whether you have experienced a major loss or are struggling with something not going your way, psychotherapy can be a helpful form of support as you process what is going on.
Body Image is something that is formed in your mind, based on thoughts and feelings you have about yourself and then unconsciously projected on to your physical body. It is different to your body reality.
Struggling with a negative body image can be destabilising and it is far more to do with your emotions that what your body actually looks like. Therapy can help you understand the disturbance and help realign your body image with your body reality.
"I found Zoe online at BACP after my son attempted suicide, failed, praise be, and I needed to talk this through with someone. Her initial email response oozed understanding so I chose her. She was very understanding, kind, non judgemental but challenged appropriately when needed. I cannot say enough good things about her, very professional. I can recommend her without reservation."
“After 6 months with Zoë I was able to turn a life-long hurtful relationship with my mother, who has narcissistic personality disorder and used to drive me crazy, into a well-functioning loving one by setting very strong boundaries. I am also equipped with Zoë’s tools to maintain a life as a functional responsible adult.”
When suffering with codependence your wisdom, support & encouragement gave me the strength to face up to truths, feelings & fears that I had been too scared to face."
"Thank you for everything. We dropped my daughter off at Uni last week. She is so excited about this new phrase in ther life. Many Thanks."
"Just wanted to say a quick thank you for the kindness you showed me. I'd expected it to be tough and I was surprised how emotional I was, feeling tired and reflective today! I know I'll benefit from having done it."
Zoë is psychology advisor at ROWBOTS. Helping to develop a boutique class-based gym with mental health conditioning at the heart of the physical workout.
Zoë is currently very happy to be
providing brand specific therapeutic support for teams in London.
Zoë is officially the first ever UK Mental Health Consultant for fitness brand Barrys in the UK.
After the Instagram success of @yourmentalhealthworkout, Zoë will be releasing 'Your Mental Health Workout' the book in May 2021!
Zoë helped develop the psychological themes used in classes at ROWBOTS. She introduced the team to a range of appropriate therapeutic techniques that can be included in the Rowbots Workout to ensure maximum change on a physical and psychological level.
Elite sportsman Gareth Bale is a cofounder and ambassador.
Book a class: www.rowbots.co.uk
'Zoe was an integral factor in deciding to lead with themes around mental conditioning for our classes which has been received tremendously well by our members. Zoe is constantly looking at ways to innovate, improve, and keep our brand real and authentic in line with the overall philosophy. '
- Sam Green CEO Rowbots.
During the Covid-19 pandemic Zoë has been offering brand specific support groups and one to one sessions for teams and individuals via virtual platforms.
These interactive sessions are 45-60 minutes long and tailored to the individuals involved as well as the relevant brand manifestos.
As we move into our 'new normal' these sessions will move from virtual platforms to in person events and you can enquire via the 'work with me page'.
As of August 2019 Zoë is officially the first UK Mental Health consultant for fitness brand Barrys UK.
Zoë's role is to ensure that attention to mental health becomes a mainstay in their fitness community. Her goal, as always, is to make working on your mental health as accessible and acceptable as working on your physical health.
Visit their website: www.barrys.com
Follow them on Instagram: @barrysuk
Zoe is an incredible support to Barry's, both staff and clients. Her innovative approach to mental wellness in the fitness industry aligned so well with our values as a brand. Her input keeps us informed on the link between physical and mental wellness and ensures we take our mental "fitness" just as seriously as our physical. She is both professional and extremely engaging. Your Mental Health Workout has had a massively positive impact on our clients; particularly those that Zoe has worked with on a one to one basis.
- Megan Jones, Marketing Barrys UK.
Your Mental Health Workout, the book, will talk you through each of the Mental Health Workouts in much more detail and depth, to help you understand why exercising your mind is important, what to expect while doing them and how to apply them in reality.
You'll be able to get your hands on the paperback in May 2021 and keep your eyes on the Instagram account and sign up to the newsletter to gain access to an ebook version in September 2020!
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'When it comes to physical exercise everyone of us is only too aware of all the different terminologies that exist out there. The warm up . The cool down. The conditioning. And then finally, the stretch. Your Mental Health Workout helped me understand the importance of having a well conditioned mind more than ever, and that those same terms have a place when focusing on a mental workout. - Mr Motivator